Showing posts with label psychology. Show all posts
Showing posts with label psychology. Show all posts

Thursday, October 15, 2009

The truth can hurt!


Could you go an entire day without telling a lie? Before you answer, this includes no white lies or being able to bend the truth? For me, it would be very difficult and I’d feel horrible if I hurt someone’s feelings. I'm not sure, how a people pleaser stops pleasing for 24 hours?

Last weekend we saw the movie The Invention of Lying with Ricky Gervais and Jennifer Gardner. And today, I'm honestly still thinking about the movie. How would I rate the movie? It was an interesting concept, but the movie was nothing to write home about. It did remind me, however, that we are all bunch of liars!

Wait, we're not? Liar, liar, pants on fire!


When someone asks me about my day, have I ever responded honestly? For example did I say, “Today I had a tough day because I only slept for a couple of hours, I forget to pay my cell phone bill and I’m down to my last pair of underwear."

Instead my usual response is, “I had a good day and you?”

And what if someone wanted your honest opinion about a family member. “Isn’t Aunt Kathy just wonderful?” Since you’re no longer allowed to flower the truth, you have to respond bluntly and say, “Actually, Auntie Kathy and I clash and have never seemed to get along.”

To be honest, (sorry for the pun) this movie reminded me of when my Father and I use to write speeches. My grade school English teacher, would assign us to write a 3 minute speech to be performed in front of the class and then if chosen, performed in front of the entire school.

For my speeches my father and I would sit together and brainstorm ideas. One of my winning speeches, (no lie) was about ‘what would it be like if you got caught in a Television? After seeing the movie, I called my father and told him it was just like one of our speeches.

The truth can hurt, but isn’t it better to be honest and not to lie? Do you think you could get through a day telling the absolute truth to everyone? Really, let's start now...

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

JuiceBoxJungle: Daddy doesn't do it right

More parenting videos on JuiceBoxJungle

Do you know about the JuiceBoxJungle site? I love their real parenting stories and videos. If you're a parent, hoping to be a parent one day or enjoy learning about child development, this site is for you. For example, how awesome is this video about Dad's trying to deal with Mom's thinking they do everything right when it comes to raising the children? (This argument probably started at the beginning of time, but still goes on today). My favorite quote from the video is, "The more you nag, the less Dad's will do." What's yours?

Well, you've got my vote Dad's...put on your Daddy t-shirt and dress your kids in non matching clothes. I promise to *try* not to say anything.



Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Put me in the game Life Coach!


Recently, over dinner, a close friend of mine made the suggestion that I should become a Life Coach. I wasn’t sure what to make of this. Was this a compliment or my friend’s polite way of saying that I try to help everyone? I had never thought about the difference between sitting with good friends discussing your life goals vs. doing it professionally.

I had so many questions. How do you decide to be a life coach? How do you decide if you need one? What’s the difference between a life coach and a therapist? How does a life coach market their service? I found myself looking for the answers. The ad below is a typical one for a life coach (source: www.mylifecoach.com)
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Are you ready to be happy and fulfilled?

Life Coaching is for people that are truly ready to create a successful life for themselves. A life coach is skilled in helping you to make radical improvements in your life. If things are pretty good, but you want them to be great...Coaching is for you!

A Life Coach is not a therapist...more than a consultant... and not just a friend: Your Life Coach is your personal expert to help you realize your full potential!
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I am a behavioral therapist by training. The main difference between a therapist and Life Coach is pretty simple. A therapist helps you work on your past and a Life Coach helps you work towards your future.

Do we wish we all had time to write down our passions, career goals and plans and know each step needed to get there? Yes, but we usually don’t have this luxury. In fact, people usually cite busy schedules and lack of time as reasons preventing them from getting to their real goals.

Who typically seeks out life coaches? Many are business people, entrepreneurs and people looking to transition in life. Life Coaching can be a guide to help push you through to the next destination in life. Would you go to a Life Coach?